Hello dear reader! Salutations and welcome to my musings and mumblings!! Thank you for joining me in the void of space and time that is here and now. ok, so I definitely had intentions of becoming a travel blogger when I started this blog. I was hoping to find ways to do lots of travelling and blogging and have people be so interested in what I have to say that they throw money at me so that I can quit my jobs to focus on travelling and writing. However, I have found myself quite busy IRL with said jobs and life so getting to the internets for blogging has proven quite challenging. But tonight I am needing to stay awake during an overnight shift at the group home I work at occasionally so perhaps an update is in order. Kristi and I have travelled to Costa Rica for her birthday in December and have had a few more local adventures that I would love to share. I will try to dedicate a blog soon to those adventures. The biggest news of the hour though is that we have found a spot for our wedding and sent out invitations. So the kidders will be getting hitched in smartsville USA. HAHA! I want to invite everyone I know because I am THAT ridiculously excited for this next chapter in my life. AND I know its going to be an amazing fun party that I don’t want anyone to miss. However, I also want it to be an intimate party that Kristi and I throw for the people who have helped us to become the wonderful people whom we have become thus far along our lives journeys. So I am trying to find the balance. We have a lot of friends and family who are very excited for us. I also have people that I want to invite who have been important in my life who would like to support me and I know love me very much but don’t necessarily agree with my choice to get married again at all or have concerns that this time it is to a woman. Its bringing up a lot of things for me. I understand some of the concerns since I never thought I would want to get married again. After all how many times can you officially promise forever to another person? I did not have a wedding the first time. I eloped to Vegas with the intentions of still having an actual wedding but not really wanting the traditional walking down a long aisle in a poofy dress to swear an oath of til death do we part. At the time it felt like I would be a part of a ceremony that was for everyone else but not really what I wanted to do. So the wedding never happened but we were married for 8 years and had two amazing children together. I wanted to be married and have a husband and children. Being a mother was really the only goal I had for myself. I do not regret this decision that young Amanda leapt into though I wish that I had made some other goals that involved seeing more of the world and creating a stronger financial foundation for us all somehow. That being said, I am truly grateful that my children are exactly who they are. It has not been easy and I would not change anything about them. I am so proud to be their mother. They are nearly adults and incredibly independent and smart and it feels good to be starting to think about how I want to be moving forward in life as they continue forward on their own paths. Kristi and I have been planning our wedding since we started dating. Our ideal wedding is far from traditional. We want to have a mad tea party inspired but “not mad about it” tea party involving costumes and games and shenanigans. People ask me when we became officially engaged and it has been such a flow of us asking each other in different ways that it just feels natural and easy and time to throw a party about it! I want to have a space where people can celebrate the joy of two people finding each other in this chaotic world so full of pain and fear and beauty and joy and constant miracles grand and small. I want my family and friends to meet Kristi’s family and friends and revel in the ways we are all interconnected to one another and have a wicked good time celebrating life and love together. Life is too short to not find as much joy as we can while we are alive. I feel like I have finally found myself and I love how she reflects the good in me back to me. Life is good and there is so much yet to come. I am so happy to have her hand to hold as we follow this next path together. The time has come for us to see the world together and figure out what sort of opportunities await us. When nothing is certain, everything is possible. And I for one am excited to see what possibilities we discover together. <3
Our First Trip to Portugal!
What a dream come true!!! I got to go to Portugal last month!! My children were invited but did not want to come with me this time. Here is a picture of how sad they were to see me go…
I spent a month preparing, setting up carpools, finding hotels and car rentals, trying to learn a bit of the language and customs, and creating a loose itinerary. My main purpose was to see Fuseta, the town my great grandma grew up in before her family, our family, moved to the united states.
We had a lovely meal with my teenagers before they dropped us off at the airport. Kristi and I were ready for our adventure!
The long flight to London…
It was the biggest airplane I have ever been on. Surely not impressive to all of you dear readers who are well versed in the two level, spiral staircase sort of airplanes, but it was new to me. A bit intimidating and a bit claustrophobic somehow. Kristi helped me stay grounded (metaphorically speaking of course since we were quite far from the ground) with calmness and giggles. I went through some existential dread, watched a bit of doctor strange, discovered and discussed with kristi the hugeness of Canada (its quite a large Country) and then I managed to sleep for quite a bit of the trip. I had been too nervous for the dinner service and woke up very excited for the breakfast service and TEA! They slowly brought up the cabin lights and those darling carts made their way towards us. The pictures may not look as appetizing to you sitting at home with a full belly in your cozy chair and warm blanket as you sip on whatever beverage you might sip while reading your favorite blog. But let me tell you that it was delicious. And somehow I ended up with two teas!! luckiest of mornings! There were two sexy stews attending the cart and somehow they both poured my tea and the one who handed them to me said “This will put a bounce in your boots dear” She. Was. Not. Wrong.
Our flight landed 15 minutes early but then had to wait on the tarmac for a half hour so we missed our connecting flight. There was some kerfuffle but we were put on the next flight that left about three hour later. So we did the most sensible thing one can do when stuck at an airport for longer then planned. We found our way to the bar for a couple of pints. I could go on at length about the inefficiency and oddities of british airways but lets get to lisbon shall we? So much still to come!
Portugal!
We got into Lisbon around 11p local time. After much confusion with taxis and ubers we made it to our hotel a little after midnight and collapsed. The next morning we found our way to our car rental place so we could head down to the Algarve. Our first stop will be Sagres – the most southwestern tip of mainland Europe. At the car rental place they gave us a free upgrade to a cute little blue convertible with GPS we named Sophie. I started driving around this unfamiliar city while Kristi figured out the GPS. Some people may figure out how to use the GPS and figure out where they are going before they start driving around a strange new city. We are not those people. I like us. We have fun.
So we puttered about Lisbon and made our way across a big beautiful bridge on our way to Sagres. We realized that we had rushed out without breakfast but were excited to be on the road so we stopped for some snacks to get us through until we could find a cafe for a real lunch. Sumol and ham flavored ruffles? why not?
That first drive down the coast was delightful! Kristi took pictures and videos…
We stopped at a little cafe for lunch and while no one spoke english there we were able to get a delicious sandwich to share, coffee for kristi and some cha for myself with my limited portuguese and pointing at menus and muito “desculpes” e “obrigadas”. The rest of the drive to Sagres was gorgeous. We listened to a radio station that had an eclectic mix of Portuguese and english music. Sagres is a cute little beach town that gave me Bolinas CA vibes. The lady at the front desk of our hotel suggested a dinner restaurant that was hard to find and not open once we found it but we had a lot of laughter on the way. She also let us know where the lighthouse could be found which she said was the perfect place to watch the sunset but might be hard to find parking because of the crowds – muitos pessoas! Holy flock of seagulls batman, she was not kidding. Muitos Pessoas indeed. The lighthouse itself was covered in plastic sheets and scaffolding and the cliffs were covered with crowds of people waiting to watch the sunset from this end of the world vantage point. We watched the same sunset they did but from a few blocks away by ourselves and then went to a little neighborhood mercado for fresh bread, meat, cheese, and beer labeled Sagres. Which we were excited about because we were in the town of Sagres and found out later it is a very popular beer all over Portugal. Still tasty. No one was mad about it. The view from our balcony was phenomenal. Exactly what I had been hoping for.
In the morning we had a delightful breakfast at our hotel including our first pasteis de natas. We will try this Portuguese pastry treat everywhere so get ready for that!
Next we took a sweet short hike to the end of the world to get a closer look at the amazing view from our balcony.
The Amazing Algarve
Next we drove along the coast on our way to Fuseta, the town my great grandma was born in. The GPS kept trying to redirect us to a main road more inland but we drove through the cute coastal towns and took some time to stop to play at the ocean.
Fabulous Fuseta
And after a lovely coastal drive we arrive in Fuseta!! We checked into our wonderful little hotel and had a wander about town and delicious dinner.
The next day we woke up and tried to find great grandmas house. The street my mom had given me was not on the map but we walked around in the general area it was supposed to be. We found a little side road with the right street name but only two doors. Around the corner was the right number and a very insistent cat. It seemed feasible that even if this was not the exact house my great grandmother had lived in, we were walking on cobblestones streets my family walked, and their church was the view from our balcony. This morning found me deeply reflecting on what my great grandma might have been like before making the long journey to a strange new country. She never returned to her homeland and neither did her daughter or grand daughter. She died when I was too young to remember her but there are pictures of her holding me. So we had a brief physical connection so long ago and now here I stand in the place were she was as small as I had been when she held me.
Much deep thoughts but now is time for lunch so we headed over to Kais cafe. We had delicious bifanas and sangrias and another tasty pasteis de nata.
Another lovely evening in Fuseta and then we were on our way back up towards Fatima to meet with my mom and sister and cousin. They were making a brief stop in Portugal on their way to Rome and I was very excited to get to see them while we were all here. On our way we drove through forests of cork trees and olive groves and eucalyptus trees.
A brief moment in Spain
We realized we were close enough to dip our toes in Spain so we drove across the border and then around a roundabout to get back into Portugal. It was indeed a very brief moment in Spain.
Evora, Portugal
We spent the night in Evora and found a nice restaurant for dinner. We tried some bacalhau on little mini ice cream cones for an appetizer. The restaurant brought us some delicious tonic water and lemon grass spritzers to start our meal and I want to have them every day for the rest of my life. Not pictured but so refreshing. The food was amazing as well.
Before we left Evora for Fatima, we had to go back into town to storm the castle…
Familia in Fatima
And now we head to Fatima to meet the fam…
Back to Lisbon!
From Fatima we all made our way down to Lisbon and tried some pasteis de nata at a spot endorsed by a king. delish
The next day my fam continued their journey on to Rome and Kristi and I went out to explore Lisbon. Our first exciting adventure was to find a laundromat! because we know how to party. Also we liked the idea of traveling home with clean clothes instead of filthy. We got a little bit lost but found a delightful little cafe with wonderful people who showed us the way. They also had the best pasteis de natas of our whole trip.
We dropped off our clean laundry at the hotel and headed downtown to see the sights. We decided to check out the santa justa lift which was supposed to be an excellent view of Lisbon. When we got there it was terribly crowded and there was a long line of people who looked miserable. We ended up grabbing a tuk tuk with a driver named Sylvestro. He took us to a much higher part of Lisbon and we could see the santa justa lift looking tiny down below. Sylvestro also showed us so much cool street art that I am going to need to write a whole new blog about because this one is already way too long and there was so much amazing art to share about. Stay tuned for the next blog!!
After our tuktuk tour Sylvestro dropped us off in Alfama for dinner and Fado music.
We woke up on our last morning in Portugal and got our things together to head to the airport. We bought a few last souvenirs and sent some postcard and then it was time to say adeus.
London Layover
We had an evening in London on a long layover before our final flight home. We stayed at an adorable hotel called the Captain cook. We had a delicious dinner and then explored a little London nightlife.
And that is a little sneak peek into our adventure. I hope you enjoyed it. And now back to your regularly scheduled program… Thanks for reading! Tip your servers well! Get plenty of rest and water and don’t forget to stretch.
True love always begins with a mix tape…
Im so grateful for a life full of music, laughter and love. I have amazing children, a beautiful capable and loving partner, a supportive caring family, and a village of amazing people who look out for me and my children. Even when the road gets bumpy I know I am not alone on this journey. <3
Loving my Amandazing
She is a bright light in each day, and I am so grateful for our love.